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Today I shall talk about a couple of things. About self love, self care, and self growth. We often are too hard on ourselves. I learnt that the hard way, again and again, but I never understood what to do with it. Until yesterday. I always used to protect myself from fully embracing the emotions I felt, by finding distractions, or by projecting my attention to some other thing, but sooner or later the walls you've built surrounding the emotions will break, and you'll be overwhelmed by them. The hormones won't have anywhere else to go except your tear ducts. That's when you have the opportunity to grow, because after you've exhausted the capacity of your tear ducts, you have a sense of clarity. You see things rationally. And you can decide to either fall back into the same cycle, or find a way out of it. When things make you feel trapped, or alone, or unwanted, at the end of the day, it is you who decides how you perceive external factors. It is you who makes sense of the world and brings it to a conclusion. It is you, who has to step up, and love yourself. If you find yourself miserable because you feel like nobody cares, then you're partially right. A part of that nobody is you. You're feeling miserable because you're not caring enough about yourself. And that's all you need to step out of that circle. "You deserve better" I've heard this a countless times. People say that, but hardly anyone wants to be the better. That's how I used to take it. But you know what? They were right. I do deserve better. And I am a part of that better. I know how amazing I am, and if someone else doesn't want to be the better that I deserve, then that shouldn't hurt me. You gotta have a little ego. You gotta say to yourself "it's their loss. I don't need someone else to make me feel whole, or to make me feel loved". You can do everything that someone else can, to make you feel loved. We just like external gratification, our society has made us believe that's the way to feeling the best. Having someone else who loves you. Nothing beats that. Right? No. Wrong. Buy the thoughtful gift you expect from others for yourself. Go watch that movie nobody's coming with you for. Be your lover.
Today I shall talk about a couple of things. About self love, self care, and self growth. We often are too hard on ourselves. I learnt that the hard way, again and again, but I never understood what to do with it. Until yesterday. I always used to protect myself from fully embracing the emotions I felt, by finding distractions, or by projecting my attention to some other thing, but sooner or later the walls you've built surrounding the emotions will break, and you'll be overwhelmed by them. The hormones won't have anywhere else to go except your tear ducts. That's when you have the opportunity to grow, because after you've exhausted the capacity of your tear ducts, you have a sense of clarity. You see things rationally. And you can decide to either fall back into the same cycle, or find a way out of it. When things make you feel trapped, or alone, or unwanted, at the end of the day, it is you who decides how you perceive external factors. It is you who makes sense of the world and brings it to a conclusion. It is you, who has to step up, and love yourself. If you find yourself miserable because you feel like nobody cares, then you're partially right. A part of that nobody is you. You're feeling miserable because you're not caring enough about yourself. And that's all you need to step out of that circle. "You deserve better" I've heard this a countless times. People say that, but hardly anyone wants to be the better. That's how I used to take it. But you know what? They were right. I do deserve better. And I am a part of that better. I know how amazing I am, and if someone else doesn't want to be the better that I deserve, then that shouldn't hurt me. You gotta have a little ego. You gotta say to yourself "it's their loss. I don't need someone else to make me feel whole, or to make me feel loved". You can do everything that someone else can, to make you feel loved. We just like external gratification, our society has made us believe that's the way to feeling the best. Having someone else who loves you. Nothing beats that. Right? No. Wrong. Buy the thoughtful gift you expect from others for yourself. Go watch that movie nobody's coming with you for. Be your lover.
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